Online Dating: Tips and Tricks
E-Harmony, [login to view URL], [login to view URL] and Plentyoffish.com- Dating sites seem to be popping up online as quickly as a rabbit produces offspring. There’s a different site for every demographic one can think of, and dating online is quickly becoming the norm for most internet users.
Being a former customer service agent for a dating website and a former dating website user myself, I completely understand the trials, tribulations and frustrations regarding the online dating process. Sometimes, you meet someone you think is great but don’t hear from them after the first date. Other times, you have your eye on someone and you never hear from them at all, although you know they’re looking at you as well.
In order to help you out, I have compiled a short list of things that may help you out with your online dating experience.
Tip #1: Fill out the profile COMPLETELY. This includes tidbits of yourself you never thought of sharing…and a photo…a good one…
85% of users who post a photo and a complete profile on a dating website are more likely to receive communication from other users. Now, if you place a photo which is a good portrait shot of you the percentage goes up even more. Oh, and please smile in the photo, it makes you look more approachable.
Tip #2: Be moderately picky about your partner.
If you don’t choose any specifics about your significant other, then you’ll be disappointed with the caliber of people you’re meeting. Be too choosy, and you’ll be disappointed with the lack of people you’re meeting. Keep it in the middle and you’ll be giving many people, including yourself, a good chance at love.
Tip #3: Don’t be overzealous.
As a user of a dating website, I do get excited about an email or some sort of correspondence with someone; However, I do get quite nervous once I just spoke to someone for 2 seconds and they already want to move in with me. Overzealousness is the #1 date killer in the online dating community. Treat online dating as you would when you just meet someone new; take it slowly. Don’t rush into things. It’s best to start with a few email correspondences, then talk on the telephone. Once both parties feel comfortable, then go ahead and meet for coffee or dinner. It’s less creepy that way.
Tip #4: BEWARE of scammers
Online and offline, scammers are everywhere. The internet makes them more accessible to people. When it comes to someone taking advantage of you or attempting to, your gut is key. Being smart is helpful as well. For example, if you receive an email from someone who states she loves you, wants you to help her move from her country to yours and you’ve never spoken to her previously….then RUN. It’s most likely a scammer.
Tip #5: Be patient.
Give online dating a chance. As with conventional dating, you will need to weed out the bad apples before finding one worth eating. The online dating scene is not any different. Sometimes it takes a while to find the one who fits you the best. One of the worst decisions I’ve seen are those who don’t stay on a site for more than a month because of pure frustration.
ONLINE DATING PROFILE SAMPLE:
Headline: Did I tell you about my pet tiger?
I may be the only Diet-Coke addicted, near-vegetarian, reformed standup comic you meet today. Which is a good thing for me; it means that I’m definitely one of a kind and irristable. J
Ok, Ok, I’ll stop. Obviously, I love humor and am a man who is very light hearted. I’ve just found that life is more enjoyable if you view it with open eyes and an open heart. Besides, laughter is healthy for you; or so I’ve heard. So far I’m healthy as an ox so that tidbit of information must be true.
I’m looking for a woman who has an abundance of energy, who is enthusiastic and outgoing. Even more so, she’s caring and compassionate. There are definite bonus points involved if you do something helpful for a stranger. Lastly…
If... you can laugh at life's foibles,
If... you can smile at my flaws,
If... you're ready to live a life that's more than you ever expected,
If... you're truly committed to creating an outstanding relationship, when you have found the right guy…
Then it sounds like you and I have spent enough time checking out each other's profiles. It's time for you to return my note, and let's discover just how much we might enjoy each other.
Other than being a humor superhero and rescuing everyday people from the tentacles of non-humor I tend to spend my time Sailboat Racing, hiking the hills around Malibu and visiting the Santa Monica Pier.
I sell software. By the seashore. (Say that three times fast.) =0)
Last I checked I was human…with descendants from Holland and England.
I’ve converted…from Windows to Mac. But on a serious note, I am not particularly religious but am respectful of all faiths.
I can’t pass up a hot fudge sundae from Baskin Robbins (with cookie dough ice cream, of course!). The nicest people I’ve ever met were everyday folks in Nairobi. I would love to visit New Zealand someday as well.
Well, to start, I do enjoy a good belly laugh that knocks the breath right out of you. Next in line are hugs. I’ve always loved a good hug. Last but not least, traveling.
Lately, I’ve read a couple travel books and classic noir mysteries by Hammett, Chandler and their descendents. I also love Calvin and Hobbes. Did I tell you about my pet tiger?